An Abigail? Are you thinking, what do you mean? I’m not trying to be like someone else. I’m me and happy to be me. So, let me clarify. Be a mighty and courageous woman going to battle for all men. God created women to be a helpmate. “And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet.” Helpmeet (helpmate) is a helpful companion. Please note the word “helpful.” When you see a man doing well or down and out, pray for him, speak life over, and offer encouraging/motivating words. Learn to be helpful, valuable, and supportive. You know all the ways that assist in being helpful.
Notice in my earlier statement that I said men, not just your man, but all men. We need more Godly and wise counselors among women to teach females to be helpmates. Let me start by teaching you a little about a woman named Abigail. I say a little because there is so much that you can learn from Abigail’s character. Abigail was indeed a courageous woman with love for her family. She was unafraid to speak up for her family’s safety and well-being. For their right to live!
1 Samuel 25:32-34 (KJV)
And David said to Abigail, Blessed be the Lord God of Israel, which sent thee this day to meet me: 33 And blessed be thy advice, and blessed be thou, which hast kept me this day from coming to shed blood, and from avenging myself with mine own hand. 34 For in very deed, as the Lord God of Israel liveth, which hath kept me back from hurting thee, except thou hadst hasted and come to meet me, surely there had not been left unto Nabal by the morning light any that pisseth against the wall.
Nabal, Abigail’s husband, was a man full of arrogance and pride with evil ways. Like Abigail, many women can relate to having or maybe currently dealing with a Nabal. I suggest reading the story in 1 Samuel, Chapter 25. In the meantime, I’ll provide a summary—hopefully enough to entice you to read the story. Nabal made a rash decision and refused a request from David. The decision put Nabal’s family life at risk. Being a wise woman, Abigail met David on the road and persuaded him to spare her family. She didn’t use her body to seduce him. Instead, she brought him gifts that included food. Another reason a woman should learn to cook. Nevertheless, that is another topic. After Abigail reasoned with David, David spared the family and thanked her.
So ladies, can you see Abigail’s character? In all that she was going through, she remained loyal to Nabal, recognized his flaws, looked past them, and went to bat for her family while keeping her virtues and using her intelligence. Ultimately, she saved her family and married David (after Nabal’s death).
We need more Abigails today. Women who are not afraid of a mighty army that comes to destroy but can stand amid chaos/drama and come out victorious—not spending useless time in nonsense arguments, pointing fingers, blaming others, or merely doing nothing. For example, Abigail stepped in as a helpmate (his better half) and saved her family.
Women, can we have the mindset that we, all, are one family in the body of Christ serving one God? Can we speak with intelligence no matter how our men act, remain humble and go bravely before the throne of grace on their behalf? If so, I can only imagine how powerful our actions and prayers would be.